Last weekend one of my favorite National Public Radio shows, "Wait, Wait, Don’t Tell Me," did a funny bit about a singles’ site for cat lovers called I laughed aloud with program host and humorist Peter Sagal, finding the idea pretty silly. I like my cat and all, but I can’t say I’d choose my own mate based on his affection for kitties.

But then my mind began to wander through all the websites geared toward match-making within the equestrian community.

Now a site for horse lover singles, that makes sense, I thought. Then I stopped and considered it. Maybe a national audience of nonhorsey types would find horse lovers singles sites just as funny as cat-people personals.

Fortunately, it doesn’t matter too much for me personally. My husband and I have been together for nearly 18 years and married close to 12, and he’s fully aware that the horses and I come as a package deal. But, for single horsewomen and -men, a horse site might help save horse-related heartache and hassle by bringing two people with similar equestrian interests together. So, without further ado on this Valentine’s Day, here are the top 10 reasons I believe horse singles classifieds--and setting relationship expectations around horses early--are actually good idea:

Jake and Carol met on an equestrian dating site five years ago. They got married this past summer.

Photo courtesy: Carol Hunt

  1. Horses are a love and a lifestyle. If your dearest has the horse bug you won’t change her or him.
  2. Horse time supersedes golf on any sunny Saturday. Same goes for snow skiing.
  3. No matter what she says, her horse does not cost less than buying her jewelry. The reverse is true as well—his horse will not cost less than fixing up a classic car.
  4. Family vacations, when they happen, are planned and budgeted around horse show schedules, rodeos, or foaling season.
  5. The vacations that do happen will likely involve horses.
  6. Evenings out get cut short because you need to get home in time to “feed the animals.” (Really, who are we kidding? The dogs will wait, but the horses expect dinner on time.)
  7. Horse spouses must know how mend (literal) fences. Willingness to mend horse injuries in absence of spouse is a plus.
  8. “Until death do we part” can equal a lot of horse shows. And unless your significant other is a barrel racer, roper, jumper, or eventer, you might find those horse events less than exciting. Dying of boredom to end your vows is not an option.
  9. Both your wife and her horse will need shoes. Lots of them. Your husband’s horse will also need shoes. Your husband will likely need lots of boots.
  10. My friends Jake and Carol, who found each other five years ago on She had two horses, and his barn happened to have two empty stalls. They got married this past summer.

Do you know anyone who’s met their significant other on a dating site for horse singles? If your spouse doesn't ride, how do you balance home and horses?